10-10-10: Making Decisions Aligned With Your Values
My parents didn’t teach me how to make tough decisions when I was growing up. I used to waste so much time agonizing over choices both before I made them and afterwards, wondering if I had chosen the right option or path. Often I hadn’t, because the decisions I was making were not aligned with my true self.
Nowadays though, I regret very few decisions because I make decisions aligned with my values. Knowing and understanding your top five values gives you the key to making incredible, authentic decisions in your life. This means significantly less time wasted worrying over the big decisions, and significantly more time spent enjoying the fruits of our choices.
Lean-in #2 of Grow Yourself deals with making decisions based on your top values. The best model for making values-based decisions can be found in Suzy Welch’s book 10-10-10: A Fast and Powerful Way to Get Unstuck in Love, at Work, and at Home.
Prior to discovering the 10-10-10 method, I discussed strategy and decisions based on the short-term, mid-term and long-term. People’s eyes glazed over. There was nothing “sexy” about evaluating decisions in those time frames. But Welch changed that with 10-10-10.
10-10-10 is one of the most powerful tools in the Superpower System, and using Suzy Welch’s 10-10-10 process, I created a 10-10-10 worksheet for decision-making based on values. The worksheet helps you apply your top 5 values to your choices by inviting you to examine the implications of your decision in 10 minutes, 10 months and 10 years in light of those values you hold dear.
With your top five values in hand, the starting point for 10-10-10 is a clearly defined question. The second step for 10-10-10 is to use your values to answer what are the positive and negative outcomes from your decision in 10 minutes (short-term), in 10 months (mid-term), and in 10 years (long-term). The final step is to analyze the information you have gathered. Welch wrote that this part of the 10-10-10 process requires you to ask yourself: “Knowing what I now know about all of my options and their consequences, which decision will best help me create a life of my own making?”
So you can see what the analysis looks like, I have included two examples along with the 10-10-10 worksheet in the Superpower Worksheet packet. Using the 10-10-10 process will allow you to start making decisions with what you value most, and - in doing so - allow you to start creating the life that you want to lead. Each decision you make will be aligned with who you are and where you want to go.
Once you have got values-based decision making down, feel free to continue onto lean-in #3, Notice the Cringe:Establishing and Maintaining Boundaries.
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